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The autistic experience

Autism is a neurodevelopmental difference that affects how people perceive and interact with the world. It's characterized by differences in social communication, sensory processing, and patterns of thinking—not deficits, but a different way of being human.

I don't experience the world less—I experience it differently, and often more intensely.

Autism is a neurological difference that shapes how people experience and interact with the world. The neurodiversity movement has helped shift understanding from seeing autism as a disorder to recognizing it as a natural variation in human neurology.

Understanding Autism

Autism affects social communication, sensory processing, and patterns of behavior and thinking. But these differences aren't inherently negative—they're simply different from neurotypical norms. Many autistic traits, like attention to detail, deep focus, and honest communication, are genuine strengths.

The spectrum concept is often misunderstood. It's not a linear scale from "a little autistic" to "very autistic." Instead, think of it as a multi-dimensional profile where each person has different strengths and challenges across various areas.

The Reality of Masking

Many autistic people, especially those diagnosed later in life, have developed sophisticated "masking" strategies. Masking means suppressing natural autistic behaviors and mimicking neurotypical ones to fit in or avoid negative reactions.

While masking can help navigate social situations, it comes at a significant cost. It's exhausting, can lead to burnout, and often means living inauthentically. Many late-diagnosed adults describe finally understanding why social interactions always felt so draining.

Unmasking—learning to be authentically yourself—is a journey many autistic adults undertake after diagnosis. It involves recognizing which behaviors are genuine versus performed, and gradually giving yourself permission to exist as you naturally are.

Late Discovery and Identity

The majority of autistic adults weren't diagnosed as children. Many spent decades feeling "different" without understanding why, often developing anxiety, depression, or low self-esteem as a result.

Discovering you're autistic as an adult can be transformative. Suddenly, a lifetime of experiences makes sense. The social struggles, the sensory sensitivities, the intense interests, the need for routine—all of it clicks into place.

Some people embrace autism as a core part of their identity; others see it as just one aspect of who they are. Both perspectives are valid. What matters is finding understanding, community, and ways of living that honor your authentic self.

By the Numbers

Understanding the scope

2.2%
US Adults

Have autism spectrum disorder (CDC, 2024)

450%
Diagnosis Increase

Rise in adult diagnoses ages 26-34 from 2011-2022

50%
Also Have Alexithymia

Autistic adults with co-occurring alexithymia

Key Characteristics

What to understand

1

Sensory Differences

Heightened or reduced sensitivity to sounds, lights, textures, and other stimuli.

2

Social Communication

Different ways of connecting and communicating that don't match neurotypical expectations.

3

Masking

The exhausting effort of hiding autistic traits to appear "normal" in social situations.

4

Special Interests

Deep, passionate engagement with topics that bring joy and expertise.

Helpful Resources

Start your journey

Guide

Self-Discovery Path

Exploring whether you might be autistic

Coming soon
Toolkit

Unmasking Journey

Learning to be authentically yourself

Coming soon
Resource

Accommodation Ideas

Creating environments that work for your brain

Coming soon

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